You keep finding yourself worrying: how to get a job done, how to pay the bills, or how to sort out a relationship problem. Thoughts about the problem keep cycling round in your head. No matter how hard you try, you can’t get away from them. It’s even worse in the middle of the night when problems feel to be magnified.
Getting caught up with worry is a vicious circle, the more you put your energy into negative thoughts, the more you attract the reality of the worry into your life.
“What you think about, comes about”
Fortunately, there are several ways to get off the merry-go-round of worry. Here are the ones I use myself and with my clients. Pick the one which appeals most to you.
1. Turn it around
For people who like working with their thoughts.
- Take your attention from the problem, to the ideal solution. For example: I might turn around from “I’m afraid I’ll never get this job finished on time”, to “I easily finish this job well in advance of the deadline”.
- Then replace your ‘worry time’ with ‘fantasy time’ where you see yourself easily completing the job with time to spare. Really get into how you feel, who you’re with, what you’re doing.
- If you drift into a daydream that’s great, since you’ll be in the theta brainwave state, the field of all possibilities, where you can easily manifest what you think about.
- Should the worry pop up again, turn it around into the positive outcome you’re after.
With some gentle discipline you’ll soon get adept at turning around your thinking, and be surprised how your reality shifts to reflect it.
2. Find the feelings and let them go
For people who are tuned into their feelings.
Thoughts generate feelings, so another way to get off the merry-go-round of worry is to release the feelings. Worrying about not getting a job done might make you feel afraid, or insecure.
The Sedona Method will help you release the feelings associated with your worry. Think of your feelings like a pencil in your hand, you have the choice of holding onto it or letting it go. Then follow these steps, allowing your heart to respond, rather than your head.
- Ask yourself, as you consider your concern, What feeling is present for me right now?
- Just for now, could you welcome the feeling as best you can?
- Could you let it go?
Keep repeating the three steps, until the feeling goes away. Then address the next feeling that arises. For more guidance see my Quick Start for The Sedona Method.
You may be surprised how a few minutes of releasing can move you into the higher vibrations of courageousness, acceptance and peace – where your concern will appear in a new light.
3. Tap the worry away
For people who like to do something physical.
Repeated thought processes block the energy flow in your body’s meridians. You can quickly remove these blocks by tapping gently on the ends of 8 meridians, while you think about your worry. Here’s how it’s done, using EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques):
- Think about your worry, and encapsulate it in a ‘reminder’ word or phrase eg this fear,
- With 2 fingers gently tap 5-7 times on each of the following points as you repeat your reminder word or phrase to yourself:
* Inner eyebrow
* Outer eye
* Under the eye
* Under the nose
* Under the mouth
* Collar bone (to the side of the notch below your throat)
* Under arm (about three inches below your armpit)
* Top of head
For more guidance see my Quick Start for EFT.
Repeat until the worry has diminished or gone away. You’ll be surprised how quickly it dissolves!
The Delicious Nugget: There are ways out of the vicious circle of worry. Three of the most effective are: to turn it around into a positive which you daydream it into reality; to release the feeling; and to tap away the worry. You’ll be surprised how quickly your worry lightens, and you see your situation in a new light.